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Post by kandice on Aug 16, 2009 1:25:39 GMT
It's been a tough 12 weeks for me and I just realized how much of a toll it's taken on Camo. He lays around for hours on end, he doesn't have much to do with me and he'd much rather be around my mom or dad. He doesn't lay with me on the couch anymore, and the only time he wants anything to do with me is when we go to bed and then he doesn't sleep near me like he used to. We used to be inseperable and now I don't know what to do. The only time he's playful is when he's around mom and dad, when he gets around me he's completely different than he's ever been. I don't know what to do. He started pulling away from me when Richard died, but I didn't realize how much until today when he wouldn't come to me. I know that I did it and I know when it happened now and there's nothing I can to take back what I did. Camo waited up every night and he wouldn't sleep because he was waiting on hearing his dad's truck pull up. I got the bright idea to let Camo go say bye to his daddy. The funeral director let me bring Camo to see him the day of the viewing and Camo freaked out on me. I shouldn't have done it, but I wasn't thinking about the effects it could have on him. Please help me! I miss my baby boy and don't know how to get him back!
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Post by HoneyGirlssx (Audrey) on Aug 16, 2009 3:40:31 GMT
:'(Well um you could try going into your room alone with room and bring lots of toys and affection. and be in a happy mood.
Tell us how it goes. and I so Hope you get your baby boy back!
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Post by julz on Aug 17, 2009 4:21:56 GMT
Just a thought....when my Dad passed away in May, we took Teddy & Milo to say goodbye at his viewing. For us as a family it was a very important part of our "farewell". Both boys were extremely quiet & very calm at the chapel....Teddy couldn't look away from Dad...It also helped Shannon & Daniel, I believe, in the viewing process. They did not show any signs of depression afterwards. They did go searching for him the next time we visited my mom's house. That lasted a few times. I think our dogs are so much more attuned to our feelings than we think. For days after dad died I was very very sad, & the boys cuddled up on my lap. Especially Teddy. Maybe Camo is really picking up on your sadness, more than the fact that Richard has passed away. The energy that is around you now has never been there before and I think that your dogs are reacting to the energy. My heart goes out to you & I hope that it won't be too long before Camo feels better about what's going on.
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Post by kandice on Aug 18, 2009 4:23:01 GMT
That makes a lot of sense.. maybe he does feel it and maybe he doesn't like it.. he's always been there for me, but i know this loss is deeper than anything i have ever felt. i've never lost anyone close to me and other than one day losing my parents and brother, i don't think it could hit any closer than him. i've let it just be camo and I when i'm getting ready in the morning, or going outside.. he went to the store with me and outside with me when I was brushing Spirit tonight. [on the other side of the gate of course, but he layed there the whole time I brushed her out.] but the minute mom and dad came home he's stuck close to them.
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Post by ellenr886 on Aug 20, 2009 13:43:16 GMT
oh for sure. its almost scary how well dogs can pick up on your own emotions. horses are excellent at it too. i had an instructor , taht just to convince me that horses felt what you felt..she would say.. start heading towards the jump and at the last minute start thinking that "i dont want to jump i wanna go to the left" without tensings up your body at all..sure enough the horse would stop and go to the left, or right, or whichever way i thought... well when i started grace in a training class she was soooos cared she reaked out in the car..and then ir elized..i had my heart pounding and i was freaking out! no wonder. everyone told me she was getting it from me. so i had to make myself as chille dout as possible and right away shed be fine. but the second i get nervous on a walk, or anything, its like she knows... ill be sittin gon the couch and i get scared all of a sudden bc i think i ehar a noise in the room behind me and all of a sudden shell get up and come sit near me and look around like shes looking for something. try your best to do fun things with camo so that ur interactions iwth him are sooo happy. he may only change a bit tho. when pixie was stolen from our house.. even the cats acted different. they just roamed around whining all the time and our dog, brandy..who was deaf and blind... kept sleeping by pixies bed. she was SO distraught. also when i moved into my apartment i was depressed bc it was a big change an di missed home and felt out of place. the poor pups were wandering arodn crying even when we were settled in..it wasnt till i started cheering up that they got completely normal. i wish u the best. its no easy thing to get thru at all. i lost my very best friend of all time and the only thing worse would be if my mom dad or brother passed but eventually u find strength in other things... the sunrise, thunderstorms, riding horses, ANYTHING... just keep pressing on!! i have much respect for anyone who has to deal with something like this because its the hardest thinga human can ever endure.
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Post by Kat on Aug 20, 2009 17:35:33 GMT
Great post, Julz. How is Camo? I hope both of you are feeling better. ;D
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